By Dayo Adeyemi | PowerShift Devotional
The world has changed and is still changing.
Dating has moved from the village square to the digital screen. The way your grandpa met your grandma has changed.
The question is; should a Christian future husband search for a wife online? The question first is online dating sinful? No. Scripture never legislate where to meet potential babes or life partners. The Bible doesn’t mention dating apps or DMs. But it gives principles. And God still leads. Whether you meet her in church, on Instagram, or through a friend, what matters is what is your purpose for wanting her. Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” The operative wisdom is “He who finds”. This is suggest guys should find babes. Young men must take action. Initiative. Seeking. Online or offline, God still expects you to take the lead in finding. Stop waiting. Stop lust
Online Doesn’t Mean Unspiritual Online spaces are tools. Just like letters, donkeys, or boats in Bible times. Paul wrote epistles. You write texts. The medium is different. The motive matters. The methods must be godly.
What’s key?
Discernment. Prayer. Purity. The Dangers Are Real. Let’s not sugarcoat it. Online dating can be a trap if you lack wisdom.
- Superficial filters. Apps push you to swipe based on looks. Lust grows fast. Love grows slow.
- Fake profiles. Babes lie. Filters cover flaws. You may meet the counterfeit not their reality.
- Fast pace. Online spaces move quick. But marriage needs depth. Don\'t rush. Don’t skip godly counsel.
- Loose morals. Casual chats can become sensual. Guard your heart. Guard your purity.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 says: “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable.” But There Are Godly Wins
Potential Christian couples can meet online. It worked because they honored God. They set boundaries. They prayed. They didn’t pretend. They involved mentors. They didn’t rush. They prioritized character over chemistry. God isn’t limited to a church pew. He can use pixels too. Online Is a Place, not a Person Your focus is on who you\'re looking for, not where you are searching for her.
Ask: Is she surrendered to Christ? Does she show fruit of the Spirit? Does she submit to godly authority? Can she build, nurture, and walk in purpose with you? Proverbs 31:30 reminds us: “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Swipe past charm. Look for character.
To date online, guys
- Start with God. Before you open that app, open your Bible. Pray. Get clarity. Don’t date in confusion.
- Be clear on your convictions. Know your non-negotiables. Write them down. Don’t compromise under pressure.
- Involve spiritual mentors.
Let someone older, wiser, and godly walk with you.
- Meet offline more than ten times and different places. Don’t build a fantasy. Meet in public, safe places. Watch behavior, not just words.
- Stay sexually pure. Flee temptation. Don’t flirt with lust. The Holy Spirit can help you say no.
- Check community. check online friends. They are pointers. Is she accountable? Who does she do life with? Lone rangers are red flags.
Biblical Wisdom for Modern Men
Biblical principles still work in digital spaces. God wants your dating life to reflect Christ. He wants your pursuit to be holy, bold, and intentional.
Online dating isn’t ungodly. Ungodly conduct is. The channel you use doesn’t change the character you need.
A Call to Future Husbands
My guys, it’s time to open your eyes wide. There are dangerous girls in church. Serpents doesn’t hiss again by the garden gate. They come well dressed. They are trendy. Don’t chase trend. You’re pursuing destiny. Your future wife is not a trophy. She is a helper, a builder, a reward. Treat her search like a kingdom assignment. Seek prayerfully. Choose wisely. Love sacrificially. Let your love story be one that makes heaven proud even if it started with a hello in her “DM”. God is involved whether you are online or offline. He’s watching your heart. Make your motives pure. Let your standards be high. Let your pursuit reflect Christ. Whether online or offline, respect yourself. Find her with faith. Date her with honor. Marry her with purpose. Romans 12:2 cannot be broken. “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…” –
Guys, don\'t just pray for a wife. Prepare your life. Study the Word. Grow your character. Be the man first before you be her man. Have a work. Earn. The right woman won’t fix your life. She will join your purpose. Be ready when you find her. Let’s talk more. Join the Future Husbands Club of the Catalyst Men Network. We may even help you find a beautiful babe #HusbandsInTraining #CatalystMen #FaithOverFilters #PurposeOverPreference #OnlineOrOffline