We don’t fix broken men.
Greg was that guy. The guy who looked like he had everything together. Tall, a killer smile, stable job, decent apartment, and a social media feed full of soft flexes and travel pics. To the average guy, Greg was winning. But behind the scenes, he was stuck in a loop. He took one poor decision after another. He looks a good guy outside but a wrecked bro on the inside. Though, there were no arrests, no interventions and no drugs, yet, there no clarity to his purpose. Most guys are Greg all around us.
Many young men are without life roadmaps. Caught between digital noise and silent expectations, we’re often left to figure things out solo. But in trying to "man up" without direction, a lot of us fall into subtle patterns of slow self-destruction. These patterns don’t always come with flashing red lights. Sometimes they look like long hours of isolation masked as “me time,” emotional walls we call “discipline,” or the endless chase for pleasure disguised as rest. Greg started pulling back from people he didn’t want to explain his mental fog. He thought being alone was strength. Isolation looks like a great solution. Without brotherhood, it’s easy to get lost in your own head.
On top of that, Greg never buried everything under hustle and humour. But feelings don’t vanish just because we hide them. They resurface as mood swings and sudden outbursts that confuse everyone. Greg believed that working harder would fix the grind. But when your identity becomes tied to what you do instead of who you are, any setback at work feels like a personal failure. His hustle masked his fear, and over time, it drained his joy.
Then came the video games, the porn, screen addiction, and fast dopamine fixes. These habits looks legit but destructive. Greg became addicted to distraction. Greg became social media addict and celebrity. He is camera and selfie driven for effects. His Instagram was polished, but his inner world was messy. Rich on social media but struggling with the inner man. Impressing others seems more important than connecting within.
Greg never really knew his father. The absence of a strong father figure left him unsure how to walk as a man. He loved his mom, respected his aunties, but no one taught him how to be a man in a balanced way. That gap shaped his choices. Greg also struggled to trust other men. He saw them as emotionally unavailable. So he chose the lone wolf route. But manhood was never designed to be a solo project. Without connection, growth is slower and pain is deeper.
Here’s the good news: Greg’s story didn’t end in a breakdown. One day, tired of pretending, he clicked on a link to the Catalyst Men Network website. What started as curiosity became a community. He joined a virtual safe space, spoke his truth, got matched with a mentor, and slowly started rebuilding his sense of self but by commitment. The Catalyst Men Network exists to help young men like you connect man-to-man. We offer you your own space where you feel safe and connected. We offer friendship that is purpose-driven which helps young men take their life back.
The Catalyst Men Network is a movement, not a ministry event. We're not about “fixing broken men.” We’re about equipping solid men to get unstuck. So here’s your move. Join a conversation. Get into a circle. Plug into a mentor. Or just listen in until you’re ready to speak. But don’t wait until you crash before you course-correct. Let Greg’s story inspire yours. You may look like you’ve got it all together—but imagine if you also felt that way, too.
Dayo Adeyemi